How does one be a 'nice' person?
Cos the thing is, if you're really nice, many times the other person does not realize the 'nice' things that you may do for him/her. If you do something nice, and go out of your way to explain how it was a nice action, somehow, the whole thing doesn't seem that sincere anymore does it? In order to be sincerely nice, ur actions have to be left in a kind of secret, left to the person's intepretation, appreciation and understanding. In that case, its really up to that person to judge whether you're being 'nice' then.
See the problem?
The thing is, just sometimes... I want to be nice... and appreciated for that niceness too. Is that really hard to ask for? I sometimes wonder if it is actually wrong for me to feel that way... does that mean that the niceness is not really from my heart? Not sincere?
Why do I find it so hard to admit it something I feel so strongly about? Am i put off by its uncertainties... by my pessimism?
It is ironic that my thoughts seem to be most sober only when I'm drunk.
Cos the thing is, if you're really nice, many times the other person does not realize the 'nice' things that you may do for him/her. If you do something nice, and go out of your way to explain how it was a nice action, somehow, the whole thing doesn't seem that sincere anymore does it? In order to be sincerely nice, ur actions have to be left in a kind of secret, left to the person's intepretation, appreciation and understanding. In that case, its really up to that person to judge whether you're being 'nice' then.
See the problem?
The thing is, just sometimes... I want to be nice... and appreciated for that niceness too. Is that really hard to ask for? I sometimes wonder if it is actually wrong for me to feel that way... does that mean that the niceness is not really from my heart? Not sincere?
Why do I find it so hard to admit it something I feel so strongly about? Am i put off by its uncertainties... by my pessimism?
It is ironic that my thoughts seem to be most sober only when I'm drunk.
posted by Sparky at 4:28 AM
3 Comments:
WAAAA~ FINALLY, some updates!
and now u realize that u're nice? u've been waay too nice for too long, as i've always said, and becoz of that sometimes other pple take ur niceness for granted. it's not that they dun appreciate it or anything, maybe others are too thick skinned to feel it or too used to it or just... too 賤 and 欠打. =P
but i'm sure u know what u're doin, so dun over-analyze, else it might ignite another case of psycosis. hehehe~
shrinks NEED shrinks, u know?!
take care lah, ya?! ^__^
wow...didn't know u could be so analytical! hehe...readin ur earlier post on how you are able to analyze ppl pretty well but not urself- i think that rings true for most ppl ba~ nuthin good or bad about it- i do know that u definitely are nice to everyone and that's a GOOD thing =) who cares wut other ppl think- the fact that it comes so naturally to u is already better than many~
hey sup kai. i think niceness actually is never reciprocated in the way you want it to? but it really always does eventually, in ways you can't imagine.
and i know what you mean, my mom and my sis worry a lot about me. They're afraid if i'm too nice I'd get stepped all over. perhaps you might feel the same.
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